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    To Give Yourself Away

      Most of us are first made to read Shakespeare before we have enough life experience to even partially understand it. It wasn’t until I was teaching King Lear in senior English at Stony Brook – and had a daughter of my own – before I realized that King Lear was so much about his relationship with his daughters and his desperate attempt to pass off responsibility without giving up privilege. It was the tragic tale of a father demanding love and honor – things that could only be earned. Years went by and I didn’t reread King Lear until much later when I was co-teaching “The Wise Art of…

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    David Brooks: A Holy Friend

    Dr. John Stott’s last bit of advice to his assistant before he died was simply this, “Do the hard thing.” “Uncle John” believed that choosing the easy trail, the road most taken, and the path of least resistance can only end in mediocrity – even if it comes with praise. I experienced firsthand John Stott doing the hard thing. He arrived late at night from London to talk with a group of pastors the next day. I met with John to let him know we designed the meeting to allow him the freedom of no preparation; he had only to reflect on what he had already written. When I told…

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    Catch of the Day

      There are times I understand how pastors feel when people ask them what they do the rest of the week because the only time they see them is on Sunday. The Gathering conference could at least qualify as a revival because it lasts four days, but people sometimes ask me how we spend our time after we pack up our tent and go home. We go fishing. Every morning we get up, put on our waders, sling the creel over our shoulder and get out in the stream. Now you know. We cast for ideas, people, topics, different perspectives and practical applications to bring to The Gathering. We look…

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    Nothing Left Undone

    I am at the age (and in a line of work) where people come to talk about what legacy they want to leave behind – in their families and in their businesses. In almost every case we eventually get around to talking about core values. And I’m one of these boomers thinking about succession, but I also think as leaders we need to talk as much about our core idols. Most of the books, articles and sermons about idols and idolatry are directed toward us as solitary individuals, and that makes sense because we are an individualistic culture.  We see our idols as personal. The top three you hear about are money, sex and…

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    Coming Clean

    Family: “We are involved with a start-up ministry and have made a public pledge based on the sale of a property. Is there any way we can get credit for the full sale price but not put the entire amount in the gift? We want to make the list of major donors but hold back part of the proceeds.” Advisor: “I think we can do that. We’ll just set up some instruments that are a bit complicated but create the impression you’ve given the full amount. We can hide the rest in a trust or claim some expenses that will be invisible to everyone but you. No problem.” This conversation…

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    A Guide for the Perplexed

    The local newspaper is filled with stories of people needing help. Just yesterday I read about someone’s home burning down; a gravely ill child needing funds to cover treatment; low-income students in need of school supplies; and abandoned children looking for new families. The list seems endless because the stories we read today are replaced every news cycle by more stories of suffering. The pictures, horrors and over-stimulation of breaking news are numbing. It is easy to be overwhelmed with “compassion fatigue,” feeling that it is impossible to decide who and how to help. Of course, we could choose to respond to the world’s needs as Ann Coulter suggested this…